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Practice Different Ways of Saying No
Remember that “no” is a starting point, not the final say. It’s a complete sentence, but it isn’t the only complete sentence. There are so many other ways to say no, and there absolutely will be times when we’ll want to vary our response.
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Opt-in or Opt-out Consent?
Have you heard of the terms “opt-in” or “opt-out” consent? If you plan on negotiating play with anyone at any point, you’ll definitely need to understand the difference between the two. So if you’re not familiar, read on … The terms are used mostly by tech companies when managing user data and privacy, but they…
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Pick Your Poison: A Fun Way to Introduce Newcomers to Impact Play
As veteran members of our local kink community, we offer introductory impact play experiences to people who are curious about BDSM. And over the past few months, we’ve been putting a fun twist on these experiences …
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LED Light Whips as Floggers
If you have a bottom who loves it sting-y … Do we have the toy just for you. Here’s a clip from our performance at Bondage Ball San Diego last weekend: After our performance, we got a bunch of questions about these light-up toys, so I figured I’d write something up and also share a…
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My Utility Floggers
If you’re wondering about the specific floggers I use in my tutorials, here’s all the information on them …
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Reverse Six-Point Florentine / Three-Beat Weave Full Tutorial
Flogging in reverse (striking upwards) can be quite the experience for your bottom. Since the floggers are swinging up from underneath, you can make impact with the meatiest parts of the butt cheeks in a way that you just can’t when striking downwards. Plus, if you’re extra-mean (or extra-naughty, depending on how you wanna look…
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Six-Point Florentine with Handled Floggers
Last time, I posted a full tutorial on six-point Florentine, also known as the three-beat weave. If you use traditional handled floggers, here’s a quick tip on how to adjust your grip so that you can execute the move more cleanly and smoothly.
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Six-Point Florentine / Three-Beat Weave Full Tutorial
This tutorial is intended for both floggers and poi spinners. If you’re brand new to either poi or two-handed flogging, I start with the basic moves you’ll need and build on them until you get to the weave itself. This tutorial is also intended to help those of you who can do four-point Florentine (also…
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When Consent is Not Enough
We do a pretty good job of cultivating consent, at least where M and I are active members of the kink and sex exploration communities. So then why does the title of this post imply otherwise? Because there’s something that happens often enough that we may need to revisit our consent practices.
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Florentine Timing Exercises
Do you sound like a galloping horse when you do Florentine? Or are you struggling in general to do it smoothly and consistently? If so, here’s a series of progressive exercises to help you with your rhythm and timing. The first set of exercises is for four-point Florentine, also known as the two-beat weave in…
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Rhythm & Timing: Use a Metronome for Consistency
Every human has a “default” speed that their body prefers to operate at. This doesn’t mean that your muscles can’t move faster or slower. It just means that you have to put thought and effort into moving them outside your default speed. Default speed becomes obvious when doing Florentine because it is rhythmic and repetitive…
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An Alternate Way to Learn the Three-Beat Florentine Weave
Note: I’ve now put together a full tutorial using the techniques summarized here. As such, I consider this page mostly retired at this point. I taught a finger flogging workshop at Kinky Things last weekend, and several people specifically asked for tips on getting down the three-beat Florentine weave. They knew the positioning. They knew…
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