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Pick Your Poison at Thirst
Here are some snippets from our impact play demo at Thirst, by Twisted Windows and Dual Demons, at The Kink Store in San Francisco last weekend. We were excited to bring Pick Your Poison to the Bay Area for the first time ever, and even more excited that it ended up being … ahem, such…
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DomCon Workshops May 29th and 31st, 2026
We’re heading to Los Angeles for DomCon next weekend, where I will be teaching two flogging workshops. Here’s the full workshop schedule, and below are the descriptions for my two classes. I’m also available for private lessons, and both of us are available to negotiate impact scenes as well, so hit me/us up if you’re…
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Bondage Ball Highlight Reel
Here’s a highlight reel from our performance at the last Bondage Ball in San Diego, this past January. These clips no longer go on our Instagram, because Instagram keeps taking them down, and we’d prefer not to get our account banned outright. Why they get taken down (for “sexual solicitation”) is another discussion in itself…
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San Francisco Workshops May 16th, 2026
Bay Area friends, I’m coming to you next month to teach two back-to-back workshops! Not Just an Intro to Consent: Owning Your Yes & Your No 🗓 Saturday, May 16th, 3:00–4:30 pm Practice asking for what you want and responding with clarity, confidence, and intention. The conversation is the foreplay! Click here for info and…
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Maximizing Power While Minimizing Effort
Here’s a quick tip on how you can maximize the power in your flogging while minimizing the effort you have to put in. I’m sure some of you will find this obvious, but I see enough inexperienced tops not doing it that I think it warrants its own mini-tutorial. For the science geeks, this is…
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Isolations & Sideswipes with Handled Floggers
Previously, I posted a tutorial on sensual flogging using isolations and another tutorial on adding surprises to Florentine with sideswipes. Here’s a short clip that shows both of these moves in action. See, we use traditional handled floggers, too (every now and then). From the most recent Bondage Ball in San Diego:
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Bondage Ball Slow-Mo
We absolutely love these slow-motion closeups from Bondage Ball San Diego on January 17, 2026. Thank you for capturing these, Subtle Lotus! I originally posted these clips on our Instagram (click here to check us out), but they got removed for being potential sexual solicitation 🤷🏻♂️ … I appealed, but got denied 🤷🏻♂️ … So,…
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Highlight Reel 2025
Here’s a highlight reel of some of our performances and demos from the past few years. It can’t go on Instagram because it’s probably a little too NSFW for it, but YouTube seems a little more friendly with PG-13 content. In case you’re curious, the events shown are (in order of appearance):
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Spice Up Your Florentine with Sideswipes
Do you enjoy the rhythm and flow of Florentine, but also find it getting repetitive after awhile? Do you wish you could change things up and throw in some surprises every now and then, so you don’t start putting your bottom to sleep? If so, here’s a move you can pull to keep your bottom…
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Removed By Instagram
We offered our Pick Your Poison experience at Club Sabbat’s Back to School Night back in August. To fit with the theme, we called it Time Out. This video was removed by Instagram for sexual content, which is frankly a bit confusing, as it’s not any more explicit than some of the other videos we’ve…
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Practice Different Ways of Saying No
Remember that “no” is a starting point, not the final say. It’s a complete sentence, but it isn’t the only complete sentence. There are so many other ways to say no, and there absolutely will be times when we’ll want to vary our response.
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Opt-in or Opt-out Consent?
Have you heard of the terms “opt-in” or “opt-out” consent? If you plan on negotiating play with anyone at any point, you’ll definitely need to understand the difference between the two. So if you’re not familiar, read on … The terms are used mostly by tech companies when managing user data and privacy, but they…
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